Thursday, June 21, 2018
Sunday, June 17, 2018
June 14-16 was an exciting time for me and for TBE, as we celebrated my 30th anniversary serving this community. See the entire service below (it's called an aufruf here, though it wasn't...except that it sort of was - and you'll have to hear my D'var Torah to understand why...). My thanks to everyone who made the weekend so special!
Here is the link to the photo album for the Cantor's Concert (thank you to Aviva Maller Photogrpahy)
Here is the Stamford Advocate article on 30th Anniversary
Here is the link to the photo album for the Cantor's Concert (thank you to Aviva Maller Photogrpahy)
Here is the Stamford Advocate article on 30th Anniversary
Temple Beth El celebrates senior rabbi’s 30th anniversary
Thursday, June 7, 2018
There will not be a Shabbat-O-Gram next week - too much happening. So let this one linger. Make sure to get your tickets for next Thursday's cantor's concert, and if you have them, make sure to get here early. Hundreds of tickets have been sold. We'll have a shuttle bus for those who need to park down the street. Join us on Friday night, and on Shabbat morning, when we'll explore the portion of Shelach Lecha.
If you would like to prepare a d'var Torah (with my help) to be delivered while I am away this summer, now is the time! Let me know!
Also, Sat night is the community Iftar, sponsored by the Interfaith Council. It's at 7:30 at the Union Baptist Church (I'll be running there at the conclusion of Shabbat). Click here for more info. If you have never experienced Muslim prayer and fast-breaking at the conclusion of a day of Ramadan, imagine a Yom Kippur Ne'ilah and Break-the-fast - every day for a month! Our Muslim neighbors need our support, at a time when Islamophobia-inspired hate crimes are on the rise, just as hate crimes against Jews have increased. I've been honored with the opportunity to recite a blessing at the beginning of the Iftar feast.
This Friday night TBE celebrates our annual Pride Shabbat. Our guest speaker, Dustin Rader, a transgender former student of our education director Lisa Udi, will discuss the challenges and triumphs of his life. Dusty has spoken here before, and his words are truly inspirational. At a time when individuals like Virginia's Gavin Grimm need to go to court simply for the right to relieve himself in a boy's bathroom, we know that we have a long way to go.
Did you know...
There are about 1.4 million transgender adults in United States and about 150,000 youth ages 13-17
Only 26% of LGBTQ youth report that they always feel safe in the classroom
73% of LGBTQ youth have experienced verbal threats because of their actual or perceived LGBTQ identity
More than three-quarters (77%) of K-12 Students who were out or perceived as transgender had one or more negative experiences at school because they were transgender, such as being verbally harassed or physically attacked
Federal Civil Rights law has not been amended and no federal law has been created to include gender identity and sexual orientation. States have passed laws that either affirm discrimination against LGBTQ people or protect LGBTQ people, at varying levels, from discrimination
Over 129 anti-LGBTQ bills were introduced in state legislatures in 2017
Transgender people face higher-than-average rates of police violence, discrimination in the workplace, housing and healthcare, and are more likely to live in poverty than the general population.
Also see this rescue story from the Yad Vashem archives, involving an LGBTQ hero named Willem Arondeus. It's a story I had never seen before:
When Willem announced his intention to become an artist and declared his homosexuality, his father drove him out of the house. Willem began to write, working on a number of autobiographical novels as well as a biography of the 19th century Dutch painter, Matthijs Maris.
In the spring of 1942, Willem founded Brandarisbrief, an illegal periodical in which he expressed the artist's opposition to the edicts imposed by the Kulturkammer, the occupier's cultural committee. Willem was one of those Dutch artists who considered resistance a mission and had no qualms about spreading his views in artistic circles in an effort to influence others. A year later, his publication merged with De Vrije Kunstenaar, where Gerrit van der Veen* was one of the editors. Willem soon struck up a friendship with van der Veen, who had begun to specialize in forging identity cards. Forging identity cards and distributing them in Amsterdam was a task that involved one particular problem: The Municipal Office for Population Registration in the city center served as the repository of the residents' personal data and so forged cards could easily be detected. The existence of this bureau therefore posed a serious obstacle to rescuing Jews and consequently a plan was devised to attack the registration office, burn all the identity cards and files kept there, and destroy the building.
Willem, assisted by his male companion, was involved in the preparation of the attack. Albert Schlosser, a German immigrant, obtained the explosives, and Sjoerd Bakker made the Dutch police uniforms that were going to be used as a disguise. This mission was made all the harder after a similar attack was made on an office in Wageningen, Gelderland, near the end of 1942 and security in all the registration offices throughout the Netherlands was tightened. In Amsterdam, guards were placed at strategic points in the municipal building, thereby complicating the plan, which had to take into account all the possible scenarios.
The attack was finally carried out on March 27, 1943. It was a Saturday night and Willem, dressed in an officer's uniform, approached the guards at the door and told them that he, his lieutenant (van der Veen), four policemen, and three more officers had come to search the building for explosives. The guards believed the story and let them into the municipal building. Two medical students then sedated the guards. The attack went according to plan: 800,000 identity cards were destroyed; 600 blank cards and 50,000 guilders were found; the building was blown up; and no one was caught.
The head of police in the German occupation administration, immediately announced a 10,000-guilder reward for finding the perpetrators. On the night of the attack the group celebrated their success at Limperg's apartment. A few days later Willem went into hiding in Amsterdam. In early April, Willem was apprehended, but he did not utter a word while being interrogated.
On June 18, 1943, Willem was tried and sentenced to death. He was executed on July 1. In 1984, each member of the group involved with the attack was honored by the Queen of the Netherlands and awarded the Resistance Memorial Cross. On June 19, 1986, Yad Vashem recognized Willem Johannes Cornelis Arondeus as Righteous Among the Nations.
Blended Families, TBE's New Bylaws and the Abayudaya
At our recent Annual Meeting, our congregation passed bylaw revisions that, while somewhat more symbolic than substantive, make an enormous, loud statement about how welcoming we wish to be toward blended families. See the changes here.
It is important to note that the bylaws do not stray into the complex area of defining who is a Jew. Nor does it propose any changes to our ritual practice. Our practice in regards to including non-Jews in our ritual has been evolving for some time, including having special "ufruf" blessings for interfaith couples about to be married and involving non Jewish parents, spouses and other relatives in various life cycle events on our bima. I also make it a priority to contact TBE young adults who are about to be married (when I hear about the wedding), whether or not the spouse is Jewish, to congratulate them and welcome them home to their synagogue.
You can see in this article that our efforts are being echoed throughout the Conservative movement.
The bylaws do not define who is a Jew, but they do redefine who is a member of TBE, and the definition, much like that used by the state of Israel for the Law of Return, is expansive. A voting member of TBE may now be someone who is not Jewish by the traditional definition. In fact, that person can even become a committee member and a trustee.
Our growing inclusiveness is essential to our future and the future of American Jewry. It stands in direct contrast to worrisome happenings in Israel. See below an announcement that came from all the arms of the Conservative Movement this week:
In a blow to the unity of the Jewish people, Israel's Interior Ministry last week rejected the aliyah application of Kibita Yosef, a member of the Abayudaya Jewish community of Uganda, currently in Israel as a volunteer on a kibbutz. Explaining its May 31 refusal, a ministry spokesperson reportedly stated, "This is a matter of principle regarding conversions in this community - it is not about one specific applicant." But such a statement amounts to a de facto dismissal of the legitimacy of the 2,500-strong community that has been practicing Judaism for a century.
It is outrageous, disrespectful and very possibly unlawful for the Interior Ministry to reject the validity of conversions performed abroad by a major Jewish movement. The Abayudaya Community are members of Masorti Olami (World Council of Conservative/Masorti Synagogues).
This decision reverses over two decades of government policy that has conferred Jewish status for purposes of immigration and citizenship on those who convert abroad through a major Jewish movement. It is not only an affront to the Abayudaya, but also to the entire worldwide Conservative/Masorti movement.
Happy Parentless Day
Here's an excerpt from an essay written by TBE's Samantha Klein, whose father Matthew dies suddenly several months ago. You can find the whole thing online here. Read about the exciting project that is being planned - and please support it. And see above a photo of the lovely garden donated and personally planted by Matthew last year. it is now dedicated to his memory.
After losing my dad unexpectedly on December 3rd, 2017, I have found that one of the only cathartic things (other than listening to his favorite songs, smelling his worn-in t-shirts, and reading Pinterest quotes about loss) is to speak to others who have sadly suffered something similar.
Through the, unfortunately, many conversations I've had of late (I only became comfortable with sharing my tragic story in the last two months; before then I was lying under the covers of my bed in my what was once my parents' house but now is my mother's house), I've learned that the toughest day of the year in the U.S. (my apologies as I haven't had these conversations with international folks yet, but I look forward to doing so) for the members of this shi*ty parentless club, no matter the age, race, gender, etc., is Mother's and Father's Day. It's not their birthday where just you, your family, and friends are remembering / celebrating the person you lost, but it's a day where EVERYONE in the United States is celebrating their moms and dads with cards and gifts and BBQs, hugs, kisses, you know the drill...
This year, a few members of one of the world's worst clubs, the parentless club, is hosting a Happy Parentless Day event on June 21st at 7pm in NYC for those (and their significant others) who have lost a parent. Tickets ($5) are required for this event with all proceeds benefiting Experience Camps, free, one-week camps for boys and girls who have experienced the death of a parent, sibling or primary caregiver. Unfortunately, space is limited due to fire code regulation.
For more information and to purchase tickets please visit https://bit.ly/2JaqpdP.
If interested in creating your own event and you have questions, need ideas, etc, please contact me at email@example.com.
Thirty Years of Trivia
A lot has happened here over the past thirty years, during my time here at TBE. Your ticket of admission to next week's festivities will be to get at least half of these questions right.
1) Who of the names below did NOT speak here as part of the Hoffman Lecture series?
- Wolf Blitzer
- Alan Dershowitz
- Elie Wiesel
- Thomas Friedman
- Yitz Greenberg
(Answer is 5. Rabbi Greenberg was here as a scholar in residence)
2) Our first weekend scholar in residence was...
- Peninnah Schram
- Neil Gillman
- Moshe Waldoks
- Steve Greenberg
- Burt Visotzky
(Answer is 1. Peninnah Schram, the great Jewish storyteller, came for a weekend while I was still assistant rabbi. The first who came when I became senior rabbi was Waldoks, the rabbi and humorist (and he was very funny))
3) TBE Shabbatons were memorable. List the one place where they were never held....
- Holiday Hills
- Camp Sloane
- The Nevele
- Camp Eisner
- Camp David
(Answer is 5. We were never invited.)
4) In which Confirmation Class photo did my hair begin to turn silver-ish?
(Answer is 4.)
5) Of all the things said from the pulpit during my tenure, this line drew the most laughs - and I didn't say it. Who did, and when?
"I'd like to thank the rabbi. He's been like a father to me."
(Answer: Ethan at his bar mitzvah)
6) Which was my favorite bar/bat mitzvah class ever?
6) Are you kidding me? They all are!
7) In 30 years, I've missed exactly one bar or bat mitzvah. Why did I miss it?
- Saturday, the rabbi slept late
- The kid stuck gum on my chair
- Hey, she missed my bar mitzvah.
- To go on the March of the Living
(answer: d - and she was given 9 months advance notice and a chance to switch dates. Just sayin')
8) Which of the following was the worst usage of the term "Shabbat" in our eternal efforts at marketing Shabbat?
- Tot Shabbat
- Synaplex Shabbat
- Shab-N-Schmooze (for teens)
- Shabbat Unplugged
(answer: none of the above!)
9) Which large retailer did I cite during an early High Holidays sermon, mentioning that because of their serious moral lapses I would not be shopping there for a year (I never called it a "boycott...")
1) Bloomingdales (there was a Bloomingdales?)
2) Stop and Shop
3) Stew Leonards
4) Bernie Madoff's Superstore
5) Amazing Stores in Norwalk
(answer: You think I'm crazy? Ask someone who was here!)
10) Most of our recent Israel trips have been run by Keshet Israel Tours. What company ran the first few?
Answer: "Hearts of Pam," lovingly run by our very missed and loved Pamela Cohn Allen
Rabbi Joshua Hammerman
Tuesday, June 5, 2018
Temple Beth El celebrates Rabbi Joshua Hammerman’s years of service
Published on May 23rd, 2018 | by LedgerOnline
STAMFORD – Rabbi Joshua Hammerman will be honored for his 30-plus years of service as spiritual leader of Temple Beth El (TBE) at a weekend celebration to be held at the Stamford synagogue June 14 through June 16.
Prior to his appointment in 1987 as assistant rabbi of Temple Beth El, Rabbi Hammerman was spiritual leader of a small congregation in Peekskill, New York, his first pulpit following his ordination. Seeking a challenge, and attracted by the large Jewish community in Stamford, he visited and, as he puts it, “fell in love with the people, who were unpretentious and positive, the area, which felt very ‘New England’ for this Boston boy, and the synagogue itself, especially the sanctuary and the windows.”
Since stepping up to become Beth El’s spiritual leader in 1992, Hammerman has focused on creating what he calls “an oasis of warmth, love and mutual respect” that he believes is vital for a modern congregation. As the synagogue’s rabbi, he embraces people of all backgrounds and faiths, and encourages inclusiveness in synagogue life. Programs he has implemented include Synaplex and Shabbat Unplugged.
Over the years, he has also been involved in numerous local and national organizations. Among his roles, he has served as president of the Interfaith Council of Southwestern Connecticut and the Stamford Board of Rabbis, as chaplain for the Stamford Police, and as a member of the pastoral advisory committee of Stamford Health Systems.
The weekend celebration honoring Rabbi Hammerman will begin on Thursday night, June 14, when the rabbi will be honoree at the TBE Cantor’s Concert led by Cantor Magda Fishman and featuring Cantor George Mordecai. The concert will be held at Temple Beth El, 7-9:30 p.m. Shabbat services on Saturday, June 16 will include Torah readings by TBE high school and college students, followed by a celebratory luncheon with musical entertainment and a presentation by TBE children. The luncheon is free of charge, however registration is required.
Carl Weinberg, President of TBE, says, “Rabbi Hammerman has been our spiritual mentor at Temple Beth El for many years, through our congregants’ good times and sad times. We are thrilled to have this celebration in his honor and everyone is welcome.”
For more information on these events, including ticket information to the June 14 concert, call (203) 322-6901 or e-mail firstname.lastname@example.org. Temple Beth El is located at 350 Roxbury Road in Stamford.
CAP: Rabbi Joshua Hammerman